Saint Aelred of Rievaulx and his Spiritual Friend

1110-1167, Northumbria, England
Feast Day: January 12

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For Aelred's 2024 feast day, I prepared a research project. This article combines Aelred's medieval and modern history to present a comprehensive queer hagiography.
AELRED OF RIEVAULX: THE GANYMEDE SAINT
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I also presented a multimedia lecture at my parish based on my research. You can watch the video here

Bio:

Aelred of Rievaulx (1110-1167 CE) was an English monk, abbot, diplomat, historian, and theologian. He is most famous for his love of other men and his theology of Spiritual Friendship, which combines scripture, classical scholarship, and Aelred's long years of pastoral wisdom to provide a manual in creating and maintaining long-term egalitarian love-bonds between monks.

Aelred was also disabled: he suffered from arthritis and chronic kidney stones, and he lived mostly in and around the abbey's infirmary for the last ten years of his life. We don't know when he became disabled or the exact nature of his disability, but we know that his community accommodated him with a special dwelling that allowed him to live comfortably near the infirmary so he could access healthcare. It was here that he would have written "On Spiritual Friendship." Older conventions emphasized God's deliverance from pain and infirmity, and icons do not usually depict disability. However, this has had the effect of erasing the experience, ministry, and leadership of disabled people from Christian history. So, I decided to depict Aelred with a cane and one hand swollen from arthritis, in order to show that he was both disabled and a leader and respected authority in his community.

Aelred's Spiritual Friend is also not usually remembered along with him: we don't even know his name. Aelred had two spiritual friends at different times. The first was named Simon, and he died young. The second was with him for many years before he also died, and this is the friend I have drawn with him. In "On Spiritual Friendship," Aelred describes him as "my hand, my eye, the staff of my old age. He was the refuge of my spirit, the sweet solace of my griefs, whose heart of love received me when fatigued from labors, whose counsel refreshed me when plunged in sadness and grief. He himself calmed me when distressed, he soothed me when angry. Whenever anything unpleasant occurred, I referred it to him, so that, shoulder to shoulder, I was able to bear more easily what I could not bear alone. What more is there, then, that I can say? Was it not a foretaste of blessedness thus to love and thus to be loved; thus to help and thus to be helped; and in this way from the sweetness of fraternal charity to wing one's flight aloft to that more sublime splendor of divine love, and by the ladder of charity now to mount to the embrace of Christ himself; and again to descend to the love of neighbor, there pleasantly to rest?"

By depicting Aelred with both his disability and his Spiritual Friend, I am adding material context back into Aelred's theology of spiritual friendship. These relationships were diverse, complex, and multifaceted: sometimes they were close coworkers, sometimes they were like fathers, sons, or brothers, and sometimes they were romantic couples.

Iconography

  • Aelred's pose (seated, holding a long curly banner) comes from a period manuscript illustration of him.
  • "Friend Cleaving to Friend in the Spirit of Christ": This is a phrase from "On Spiritual Friendship," and it was included in Robert Lentz's icon of Aelred.
  • Aelred's left hand is visibly swollen with arthritis. He also carries a cane, which has been carved with a decorative design. Aelred's disability was actively accommodated by his community.
  • Aelred wears a Canterbury cross. Although the English church was still in communion with Rome during his lifetime, he is part of the Anglican tradition.

Aelred of Rievaulx, Patron Saint of Integrity

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Background:

Many people know that the Episcopal Church is a refuge for LGBTQ people who may not be welcome in other churches, but few know about the long decades of advocacy and activism that made this a reality. Fewer still know that Aelred of Rievaulx was added to the Episcopal Church's calendar of saints at the request of Integrity USA, the now-defunct organization that spearheaded this advocacy beginning in 1974. He was enshrined as Integrity's own patron saint in 1987, with a plea for his intercession on behalf of "lesbians and gay men" (now generally understood to include bi and trans people as well). St. Aelred is therefore the original patron saint of LGBTQ people in the Episcopal Church, and should be remembered as such. However, Integrity USA formally disbanded in 2022, leaving St. Aelred without a formal community of devotees, and his lore is in some danger of being forgotten by younger generations.

I created this icon to honor both Integrity USA and St. Aelred himself as one of our queer ancestors. In the 12th century, his biographer praised him for taking in monks that had trouble fitting in at other monasteries: "Hence it was that monks in need of mercy and compassion flocked to Rievaulx from foreign peoples and from the far ends of the earth... And so these wanderers in the world to whom no house of religion gave entrance, came to Rievaulx, the mother of mercy, and found the gates open, and entered them freely, giving thanks unto their Lord." Another of his contemporaries described him as "a man of the highest integrity, of great practical wisdom, witty and eloquent, a pleasant companion, generous and discreet. And with all these qualities, he exceeded all his fellow prelates of the Church in his patience and tenderness. He was full of sympathy for the infirmities, both physical and moral, of others." St. Aelred's character remains well worthy of veneration and emulation by modern people, regardless of how they describe their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Iconography

  • Aelred carries a Celtic insular crozier, indicating the ancient roots of his spirituality.
  • The rainbow Pride shield was released by the Episcopal Church as an official symbol to recognize its commitment to equality in matters of gender and sexuality, and to honor its LGBTQ members.
  • The book in Aelred's hand carries two "vintage" queer symbols: the pink triangle and the lambda.
  • Below the shield are a pair of green carnations (vintage symbols associated with queer men) and a pair of violets (vintage symbols associated with queer women).
  • The banner (colored in lavender, which is another "vintage" queer symbol) reads "Memento Integritas," which has a double meaning. One is "remember Integrity," the organization that made the Episcopal Church a welcoming place for LGBTQ people. The other is "remember to have integrity," which is the personal quality for which St. Aelred was most admired during his lifetime.